高等意识手册-第34章

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We　create　security；　sensation；　and　power　addictions　in　children　when　we　try
to　dominate　them　with　such　emotional　demands　as　“I’ve　told　you　a　thousand
times　to。。。　What　is　the　matter　with　you？。。。　Don’t　you　ever　listen？。。。　I’ve
never　seen　a　dumber。。。　For　the　last　time；　I　want　you　to　get　this　straight。。。　Just
do　that　once　more　and。。。”　As　Dr。　Haim　Ginott　says；　“Our　‘normal’　talk　drives
children　crazy：　the　blaming　and　shaming；　preaching　and　moralizing；　accusing
and　guilt…giving；　ridiculing　and　belittling；　threatening　and　bribing；　evaluating
and　labeling。”　Watch　how　you　feel　when　people　talk　to　you　in　such　heavily
dualistic　ways。
We　should　replace　our　alienating；　criticizing　words　with　“I”　language。
Instead　of；　“You　are　a　liar　and　no　one　can　trust　you；”　say；　“I　don’t　like　it
when　I　can’t　rely　on　your　words　　it　is　difficult　for　us　to　do　things　together。”
You　talk　only　about　your　exact　feelings　here　and　now。　You　don’t　chew　over
the　past　or　threaten　future　punishments。　You　skip　the　disparaging　pseudoanalysis
of　the　child’s　character　based　on　your　addictive　ego　demands。
How　do　you　use　the　experience　of　being　with　a　child　to　aid　you　in　your
growth　toward　higher　consciousness？　The　child　can　help　you　develop　an
awareness　of　what　an　“unfurnished”　mind　is　like。　When　a　child　is　first　born；
he　does　not　chew　over　situations　with　his　rational　mind。　He　is　just　totally
right　here　　right　now。　You　can　observe　in　a　very　young　infant　some　（but
definitely　not　all）　of　the　characteristics　of　higher　consciousness。　A　child　is
usually　very　perceptive　in　picking　up　the　true　feelings　and　vibrations　of　those
around　him。　The　nervous　system　of　a　young　child　is　heavily　programmed　for
crying　and　other　emotional　behaviors　that　can　dominate　the　consciousness　of
adults　within　earshot　so　that　they　will　be　aware　of　his　or　her　needs。　As　fellow
travelers　on　the　road　to　higher　consciousness；　we　should　see　our　adult　roles
as　loving　and　serving　every　child。　This　helps　the　child　to　make　a　rapid
transition　from　crying　and　other　emotional　behavior　to　a　programming　that
permits　meeting　needs　through　love　and　expanded　consciousness。
The　creation　of　a　heaven　on　earth　in　which　everyone　lives　in　a　world　free　of
wars；　misunderstanding；　and　duality　on　every　level　requires　that　we　no　longer
train　our　children　to　develop　intense　security；　sensation；　and　power
addictions。　It　is　easy　to　blame　the　problems　of　the　world　on　governments；
schools；　and　uncaring　economic　institutions；　but　this　is　only　an　evasion。　All
of　these　institutions　are　us。　The　non…loving；　subject…object　actions　of　all　of
these　institutions　have　been　created　and　are　maintained　by　addictions　that　we
have　acquired。　Even　the　polarity　of　our　addictive　opposition　may　strengthen
what　we　may　wish　to　change！
The　only　effective　and　permanent　way　to　change　the　world　in　which　we　live
is　to　change　our　level　of　consciousness。　And　one　of　the　best　ways　to　repair
the　strong　addictive　programming　that　has　been　conditioned　into　our
bioputer　is　to　interact　with　children。　We　can　save　them　from　the　suffering
that　would　await　them　if　they　were　to　develop　heavily　programmed　power
addictions　and　demands。　In　return；　we　will　benefit　by　being　reminded　of
what　it　is　like　to　live　in　the　here　and　now；　to　enjoy　a　consciousness　that　is　not
continually　churned　up　by　the　rational　mind；　and　to　benefit　by　the　mirror
which　the　child　provides　to　enable　us　to　see　our　own　addictions。
Your　life　will　give　you　continual　opportunities　to　show　the　child　（and
yourself）　whether　you　are　on　a　power　level　of　consciousness　or　a　love　level　of
consciousness。　Every　glass　of　milk　that　the　child　spills　enables　you　to　show
him　the　world　in　which　your　Conscious…awareness　lives。　Do　you　say　（or　even
silently　feel）；　“I’ve　told　you　a　thousand　times　to　be　more　careful。　The　next
time　you　spill　a　glass　of　milk　you　are　going　to　stand　in　the　corner　for　one
hour。　I’m　sick　and　tired　of　your　clumsy　carelessness。　It’s　about　time　you
listened　to　me。　Why　don’t　you　get　that　rag　and　clean　it　up？　Are　you
helpless？”　If　so；　you　will　be　training　the　child　to　dominate　his　consciousness
by　security；　sensation；　and　power　addictions。　And　since　your　consciousness
creates　your　universe　through　these　filters；　you　will　live　in　a　subject…object
world　in　which　your　inner　serenity　is　constantly　threatened　by　the　acts　of　the
child。　You　are　simply　using　the　spilled　milk　to　create　heavier　and　heavier
low…consciousness　programming　for　both　of　you。　And　a　low…consciousness
life　is　full　of　spilled　milk　　in　one　form　or　another。
When　a　child　spills　the　milk；　you　could　wele　it　as　an　opportunity　to　help
both　of　you　grow　into　higher　consciousness。　You　can　say　to　yourself；　“The
milk　is　spilled　　right　here；　right　now。　Fussing　about　it　won’t　unspill　the
milk。　It　will　simply　irritate　both　myself　and　the　child。　An　upset　child　may
unconsciously　knock　over　another　glass。　I’ve　knocked　over　glasses　hundreds
of　times。　This　is　just　a　normal　part　of　living。　The　immature　muscle　control　of
a　child　increases　the　probability　of　spilled　milk。　But　even　now　as　an　adult　I
sometimes　spill　things。　So　we’re　losing　a　few　ounces　of　milk；　but　that’s
absolutely　no　reason　to　lose　our　love　and　serenity。”　And　you　keep　on　talking
about　whatever　you　were　saying　before　the　milk　was　spilled。　It　should　be
cleaned　up　as　a　usual　thing　to　do。　You　don’t　need　to　head…trip　the　child　by
saying　such　things　as；　“That’s　all　right；　everybody　spills　milk；”　unless　the
feelings　of　the　child　call　for　further　words。　You　convey　those　thoughts　by
your　loving；　flowing　acceptance　of　the　spilled　milk　and　your　simple；　natural
cleaning…up　actions。
After　spilling　the　milk；　the　child　will　be　very　sensitive　to　your　feelings　and
will　pick　up　any　paranoia　or　antagonism　in　your　consciousness　　even　though
you　may　be　very　sweet　and　tactful　in　your　words。　If　you　can　really　accept　the
spilled　milk　（as　well　as　other　non…preferred　happenings　in　your　life）　and
permit　your　consciousness　to　flow　in　a　here…and…now　loving　way；　there　will
be　very　little　“spilled　milk”　in　your　life。　But　if　your　consciousness　gets
caught　up　in　one　incident　after　another　that　involves　your　security；　sensation；
or　power　programming；　you　can　create　a　living　hell　in　your　daily　interaction
with　a　child。
The　Twelve　Pathways　presented　in　Chapter　4　should　be　memorized　so　that
you　can　get　them　below　your　rational　level　into　the　deeper　circuitry　of　your
bioputer　that　controls　how　you　see　your　world。　These　Twelve　Pathways
show　you　the　road　to　higher　consciousness。　Whenever　you　are　angry；　fearful；
or　jealous；　you　will　find　that　it　is　because　you　have　ignored　one　or　more　of　the
Pathways。　While　they　apply　to　every　situation　in　your　life；　it　is　especially
important　that　you　use　them　when　interacting　with　children。　You　are　giving
them　models　of　programming　that　they　will　duplicate　to　“make　it”　in　life。
Children　will　rapidly　integrate　the　challenges　of　life　when　they　are　around
adults　who　openly　municate　from　the　Fourth　or　higher　Centers　of
Consciousness。　The　Seventh　Pathway　says；　“I　open　myself　genuinely　to　all
people　by　being　willing　to　fully　municate　my　deepest　feelings；　since
hiding　in　any　degree　keeps　me　stuck　in　my　illusion　of　separateness　from　other
people。”　This　is　especially　important　with　children；　for　their　ability　to　tune　in
to　you　on　the　feeling　level　is　very　accurate。　If　you　feel　one　thing　and　say
something　else；　you　will　be　training　them　in　dishonesty。　Even　though　their
rational　minds　may　not　yet　permit　them　to　be　as　adept　at　word　games　as　you
are；　their　relative　freedom　from　rationality　makes　them　more　perceptive　of
feelings　even　though　you　cleverly　manipulate　them　with　words。　Children
intuitively　sense　your　dishonesty　and　will　not　trust　you。　However；　they　will
mirror　your　conduct　by　learning　to　manipulate　you　with　words。　When　you
label　and　criticize　them；　they　will　mirror　this　by　labeling　and　criticizing　you。
When　you　threaten　and　bribe　them；　they　will　threaten　and　bribe　you。　And
they　can　often　beat　you　at　mirroring　your　games！
Always　remember　that　everything　that　makes　you　upset　in　your　interactions
with　a　child　represents　your　addictions　　not　his。　When　your　addictive
pr