letters to his son, 1749-第32章
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part； however； in young companies； nay； excel； if you can； in all the social and convivial joy and festivity that become youth。 Trust them with your love tales； if you please； but keep your serious views secret。 Trust those only to some tried friend； more experienced than yourself； and who； being in a different walk of life from you； is not likely to become your rival； for I would not advise you to depend so much upon the heroic virtue of mankind； as to hope or believe that your competitor will ever be your friend； as to the object of that competition。
These are reserves and cautions very necessary to have； but very imprudent to show； the 'volto sciolto' should accompany them。 Adieu。
LETTER XCVIII
DEAR BOY： Great talents and great virtues （if you should have them） will procure you the respect and the admiration of mankind； but it is the lesser talents； the 'leniores virtutes'； which must procure you their love and affection。 The former； unassisted and unadorned by the latter； will extort praise； but will； at the same time； excite both fear and envy； two sentiments absolutely incompatible with love and affection。
Caesar had all the great vices； and Cato all the great virtues； that men could have。 But Caesar had the 'leniores virtutes' which Cato wanted； and which made him beloved； even by his enemies； and gained him the hearts of mankind； in spite of their reason： while Cato was not even beloved by his friends； notwithstanding the esteem and respect which they could not refuse to his virtues； ；and I am apt to think； that if Caesar had wanted； and Cato possessed； those 'leniores virtutes'； the former would not have attempted （at least with success）； and the latter could have protected； the liberties of Rome。 Mr。 Addison； in his 〃Cato；〃 says of Caesar （and I believe with truth）；
〃Curse on his virtues； they've undone his country。〃
By which he means those lesser； but engaging virtues of gentleness； affability； complaisance； and good humor。 The knowledge of a scholar； the courage of a hero； and the virtue of a Stoic； will be admired； but if the knowledge be accompanied with arrogance； the courage with ferocity； and the virtue with inflexible severity； the man will never be loved。 The heroism of Charles XII。 of Sweden （if his brutal courage deserves that name） was universally admired； but the man nowhere beloved。 Whereas Henry IV。 of France； who had full as much courage； and was much longer engaged in wars； was generally beloved upon account of his lesser and social virtues。 We are all so formed； that our understandings are generally the DUPES of our hearts； that is； of our passions； and the surest way to the former is through the latter； which must be engaged by the 'leniores virtutes' alone； and the manner of exerting them。 The insolent civility of a proud man is （for example） if possible； more shocking than his rudeness could be； because he shows you by his manner that he thinks it mere condescension in him； and that his goodness alone bestows upon you what you have no pretense to claim。 He intimates his protection； instead of his friendship； by a gracious nod； instead of a usual bow； and rather signifies his consent that you may； than his invitation that you should sit； walk； eat； or drink with him。
The costive liberality of a purse…proud man insults the distresses it sometimes relieves； he takes care to make you feel your own misfortunes； and the difference between your situation and his； both which he insinuates to be justly merited： yours； by your folly； his； by his wisdom。 The arrogant pedant does not communicate； but promulgates his knowledge。 He does not give it you； but he inflicts it upon you； and is （if possible） more desirous to show you your own ignorance than his own learning。 Such manners as these； not only in the particular instances which I have mentioned； but likewise in all others； shock and revolt that little pride and vanity which every man has in his heart； and obliterate in us the obligation for the favor conferred； by reminding us of the motive which produced； and the manner which accompanied it。
These faults point out their opposite perfections； and your own good sense will naturally suggest them to you。
But besides these lesser virtues； there are what may be called the lesser talents； or accomplishments； which are of great use to adorn and recommend all the greater； and the more so； as all people are judges of the one； and but few are of the other。 Everybody feels the impression； which an engaging address； an agreeable manner of speaking； and an easy politeness； makes upon them； and they prepare the way for the favorable reception of their betters。 Adieu。
LETTER XCIX
LONDON； December 26； O。 S。 1749。
MY DEAR FRIEND： The new year is the season in which custom seems more particularly to authorize civil and harmless lies； under the name of compliments。 People reciprocally profess wishes which they seldom form； and concern； which they seldom feel。 This is not the case between you and me； where truth leaves no room for compliments。
'Dii tibi dent annos； de to nam caetera sumes'； was said formerly to one by a man who certainly did not think it。 With the variation of one word only； I will with great truth say it to you。 I will make the first part conditional by changing； in the second； the 'nam' into 'si'。 May you live as long as you are fit to live； but no longer！ or may you rather die before you cease to be fit to live； than after！ My true tenderness for you makes me think more of the manner than of the length of your life； and forbids me to wish it prolonged； by a single day； that should bring guilt； reproach； and shame upon you。 I have not malice enough in my nature； to wish that to my greatest enemy。 You are the principal object of all my cares； the only object of all my hopes； I have now reason to believe； that you will reward the former； and answer the latter； in that case； may you live long； for you must live happy； 'de te nam caetera sumes'。 Conscious virtue is the only solid foundation of all happiness； for riches； power； rank； or whatever； in the common acceptation of the word； is supposed to constitute happiness； will never quiet； much less cure； the inward pangs of guilt。 To that main wish； I will add those of the good old nurse of Horace； in his epistle to Tibullus： 'Sapere'； you have it in a good degree already。 'Et fari ut possit quae sentiat'。 Have you that？ More； much more is meant by it； than common speech or mere articulation。 I fear that still remains to be wished for； and I earnestly wish it to you。 'Gratia and Fama' will inevitably accompany the above…mentioned qualifications。 The 'Valetudo' is the only one that is not in your own power； Heaven alone can grant it you； and may it do so abundantly！ As for the 'mundus victus； non deficiente crumena'； do you deserve； and I will provide them。
It is with the greatest pleasure that I consider the fair prospect which you have before you。 You have seen； read； and learned more； at your age； than most young fellows have done at two or three…and…twenty。 Your destination is a shining one； and leads to rank； fortune； and distinction。 Your education has been calculated for it； and； to do you justice； that education has not been thrown away upon you。 You want but two things； which do not want conjuration； but only care； to acquire： eloquence and manners； that is； the graces of speech； and the graces of behavior。 You may have them； they are as much in your power as powdering your hair is； and will you let the want of them obscure （as it certainly will do） that shining prospect which presents itself to you。 I am sure you will not。 They are the sharp end； the point of the nail that you are driving； which must make way first for the larger and more solid parts to enter。 Supposing your moral character as pure； and your knowledge as sound； as I really believe them both to be； you want nothing for that perfection； which I have so constantly wished you； and taken so much pains to give you； but eloquence and politeness。 A man who is not born with a poetical genius； can never be a poet； or at best an extremely bad one； but every man； who can speak at all； can speak eleg
