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                     Worldly Ways and Byways 



Worldly Ways and 

                    Byways 



                        Eliot Gregory 



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                               To the Reader 



       THERE   existed   formerly�察  �in   diplomatic   circles�察  �a   curious   custom�察�

since   fallen   into   disuse�察  �entitled   the   Pele   Mele�察  �contrived   doubtless   by 

some distracted Master of Ceremonies to quell the endless jealousies and 

quarrels for precedence between courtiers and diplomatists of contending 

pretensions。   Under   this   rule   no   rank   was   recognized�察  �each   person   being 

allowed at banquet�察�fete�察�or other public ceremony only such place as he 

had been ingenious or fortunate enough to obtain。 

     Any one wishing to form an idea of the confusion that ensued�察�of the 

intrigues    and   expedients     resorted    to�察 �not  only   in  procuring    prominent 

places�察�but also in ensuring the integrity of the Pele Mele�察�should glance 

over the amusing memoirs of M。 de Segur。 

     The    aspiring    nobles    and    ambassadors�察     �harassed    by   this   constant 

preoccupation�察  �had   little   time   or   inclination   left   for   any   serious   pursuit�察�

since�察�to take a moment's repose or an hour's breathing space was to risk 

falling behind in the endless and aimless race。 Strange as it may appear�察�

the   knowledge   that   they   owed   place   and   preferment   more   to   chance   or 

intrigue than to any personal merit or inherited right�察�instead of lessening 

the value of the prizes for which all were striving�察�seemed only to enhance 

them in the eyes of the competitors。 

     Success was the unique standard by which they gauged their fellows。 

Those who succeeded revelled in the adulation of their friends�察�but when 

any one failed�察�the fickle crowd passed him by to bow at more fortunate 

feet。 

     No better picture could be found of the ;world; of to´day�察�a perpetual 

Pele   Mele�察  �where   such   advantages   only   are   conceded   as   we   have   been 

sufficiently enterprising to obtain�察�and are strong or clever enough to keep 

´ a constant competition�察�a daily steeplechase�察�favorable to daring spirits 

and personal initiative but with the defect of keeping frail humanity ever 

on the qui vive。 

     Philosophers tell us�察�that we should seek happiness only in the calm of 

our own minds�察�not allowing external conditions or the opinions of others 

to   influence     our   ways。    This   lofty   detachment      from    environment       is 



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achieved by very few。 Indeed�察�the philosophers themselves ��who may be 

said    to  have   invented     the  art  of  ;posing;��    were    generally    as  vain   as 

peacocks�察       �profoundly       pre´occupied        with     the    verdict     of    their 

contemporaries and their position as regards posterity。 

     Man is born gregarious and remains all his life a herding animal。 As 

one   keen   observer   has   written�察   �So   great   is   man's   horror   of   being   alone 

that he will seek the society of those he neither likes nor respects sooner 

than   be   left   to   his   own。;   The   laws   and   conventions   that   govern   men's 

intercourse have�察�therefore�察�formed a tempting subject for the writers of all 

ages。   Some   have   labored   hoping   to   reform  their   generation�察  �others   have 

written to offer solutions for life's many problems。 

     Beaumarchais�察       �whose    penetrating     wit  left  few    subjects   untouched�察�

makes his Figaro put the subject aside with ;Je me presse de rire de tout�察�

de peur d'etre oblige d'en pleurer。; 

     The author of this little volume pretends to settle no disputes�察�aims at 

inaugurating   no   reforms。   He   has   lightly   touched   on   passing   topics   and 

jotted down�察 �to point a moral or adorn a tale�察─�some of the more obvious 

foibles     and   inconsistencies     of   our   American     ways。    If  a  stray   bit  of 

philosophy has here and there slipped in between the lines�察�it is mostly of 

the laughing ;school�察─�and used more in banter than in blame。 

     This much abused ;world; is a fairly agreeable place if you do not take 

it seriously。 Meet it with a friendly face and it will smile gayly back at you�察�

but do not ask of it what it cannot give�察�or attribute to its verdicts more 

importance than they deserve。 

     ELIOT GREGORY 

     Newport�察�November first�察�1897 



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                      CHAPTER 1 ´ Charm 



       WOMEN endowed by nature with the indescribable quality we call 

;charm;   ��for   want   of   a   better   word���察  �are   the   supreme   development   of   a 

perfected race�察�the last word�察�as it were�察�of civilization�察�the flower of their 

kind�察  �crowning   centuries   of   growing   refinement   and   cultivation。   Other 

women   may unite a thousand brilliant qualities�察�and attractive attributes�察�

may   be   beautiful   as   Astarte   or   witty   as   Madame   de   Montespan�察  �those 

endowed with the power of charm�察�have in all ages and under every sky�察�

held undisputed rule over the hearts of their generation。 

     When we look at the portraits of the enchantresses whom history tells 

us   have   ruled    the   world   by   their   charm�察  �and  swayed   the   destinies     of 

empires at their fancy�察�we are astonished to find that they have rarely been 

beautiful。 From Cleopatra or Mary of Scotland down to Lola Montez�察�the 

tell´tale coin or canvas reveals the same marvellous fact。 We wonder how 

these   women   attained   such   influence   over   the   men   of   their   day�察  �their 

husbands or lovers。 We would do better to look around us�察�or inward�察�and 

observe what is passing in our own hearts。 

     Pause�察�reader mine�察�a moment and reflect。 Who has held the first place 

in your thoughts�察�filled your soul�察�and influenced your life�拭�Was she the 

most beautiful of your acquaintances�察�the radiant vision that dazzled your 

boyish   eyes�拭  �Has   she   not   rather   been   some   gentle�察  �quiet   woman   whom 

you   hardly   noticed   the   first   time   your   paths   crossed�察  �but   who   gradually 

grew   to   be   a   part   of   your   life   ´   to   whom   you   instinctively   turned   for 

consolation in moments of discouragement�察�for counsel in your difficulties�察�

and whose welcome was the bright moment in your day�察�looked forward to 

through long hours of toil and worry�拭�

     In the hurly´burly of life we lose sight of so many things our fathers 

and   mothers   clung   to�察  �and   have   drifted   so   far   away   from   their   gentle 

customs       and    simple�察   �home´loving       habits�察   �that   one    wonders      what 

impression our society would make on a woman of a century ago�察�could 

she by some spell be dropped into the swing of modern days。 The good 

soul would be apt to find it rather a far cry from the quiet pleasures of her 

youth�察    �to  ;a  ladies'   amateur    bicycle    race;   that   formed    the   attraction 



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recently at a summer resort。 

     That we should have come to think it natural and proper for a young 

wife and mother to pass her mornings at golf�察�lunching at the club´ house 

to ;save time�察─�returning home only for a hurried change of toilet to start 

again on a bicycle or for a round of calls�察�an occupation that will leave her 

just the half´hour necessary to slip into a dinner gown�察�and then for her to 

pass the evening in dancing or at the car

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