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was so rude to me when I spoke to her�察─�and her answer to her daughter
when the girl said ��on arriving at a watering´place�� that she had noticed a
very nice family ;who look as if they wanted to know us�察�Mamma�此─�
;Then�察�my dear�察─�replied Mamma Snob�察 �they certainly are not people
we want to meet� ─�
The men in French society are willing enough to make acquaintance
with foreigners。 You may see the youth of the Faubourg dancing at
American balls in Paris�察 �or running over for occasional visits to this
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country。 But when it comes to taking their women´kind with them�察�it is a
different matter。 Americans who have known well´born Frenchmen at
school or college are surprised�察 �on meeting them later�察 �to be asked
��cordially enough�� to dine EN GARCON at a restaurant�察 �although their
Parisian friend is married。 An Englishman's or American's first word
would be on a like occasion�此�
;Come and dine with me to´night。 I want to introduce you to my wife。;
Such an idea would never cross a Frenchman's mind� �
One American I know is a striking example of this。 He was born in
Paris�察�went to school and college there�察�and has lived in that city all his life。
His sister married a French nobleman。 Yet at this moment�察�in spite of his
wealth�察�his charming American wife�察�and many beautiful entertainments�察�
he has not one warm French friend�察 �or the ENTREE on a footing of
intimacy to a single Gallic house。
There is no analogy between the English aristocracy and the French
nobility�察�except that they are both antiquated institutions�察�the English is the
more harmful on account of its legislative power�察�the French is the more
pretentious。 The House of Lords is the most open club in London�察 �the
payment of an entrance´fee in the shape of a check to a party fund being
an all´sufficient sesame。 In France�察�one must be born in the magic circle。
The spirit of the Emigration of 1793 is not yet extinct。 The nobles live in
their own world ��how expressive the word is�察�seeming to exclude all the
rest of mankind���察 �pining after an impossible RESTAURATION�察 �alien to
the present day�察 �holding aloof from politics for fear of coming in touch
with the masses�察�with whom they pride themselves on having nothing in
common。
What leads many people astray on this subject is that there has formed
around this ancient society a circle composed of rich ;outsiders�察─ �who
have married into good families�察�and of eccentric members of the latter�察�
who from a love of excitement or for interested motives have broken away
from their traditions。 Newly arrived Americans are apt to mistake this
;world; for the real thing。 Into this circle it is not difficult for foreigners
who are rich and anxious to see something of life to gain admission。 To be
received by the ladies of this outer circle�察�seems to our compatriots to be
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an achievement�察 �until they learn the real standing of their new
acquaintances。
No gayer houses�察�however�察�exist than those of the new set。 At their city
or country houses�察�they entertain continually�察�and they are the people one
meets toward five o'clock�察�on the grounds of the Polo Club�察�in the Bois�察�at
FETES given by the Island Club of Puteaux�察�attending the race meetings�察�
or dining at American houses。 As far as amusement and fun go�察�one might
seek much further and fare worse。
It is very�察�very rare that foreigners get beyond this circle。 Occasionally
there is a marriage between an American girl and some Frenchman of high
rank。 In these cases the girl is�察�as it were�察�swallowed up。 Her family see
little of her�察�she rarely appears in general society�察�and�察�little by little�察�she is
lost to her old friends and relations。 I know of several cases of this kind
where it is to be doubted if a dozen Americans outside of the girls'
connections know that such women exist。 The fall in rents and land values
has made the French aristocracy poor�察�it is only by the greatest economy
��and it never entered into an American mind to conceive of such economy
as is practised among them�� that they succeed in holding on to their
historical chateaux or beautiful city residences�察�so that pride plays a large
part in the isolation in which they live。
The fact that no titles are recognized officially by the French
government ��the most they can obtain being a ;courtesy; recognition�� has
placed these people in a singularly false position。 An American girl who
has married a Duke is a good deal astonished to find that she is legally
only plain ;Madame So and So�察─�that when her husband does his military
service there is no trace of the high´sounding title to be found in his
official papers。 Some years ago�察�a colonel was rebuked because he allowed
the Duc d'Alencon to be addressed as ;Monseigneur; by the other officers
of his regiment。 This ought to make ambitious papas reflect�察 �when they
treat themselves to titled sons´in´law。 They should at least try and get an
article recognized by the law。
Most of what is written here is perfectly well known to resident
Americans in Paris�察�and has been the cause of gradually splitting that once
harmonious settlement into two perfectly distinct camps�察 �between which
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no love is lost。 The members of one�察�clinging to their countrymen's creed
of having the best or nothing�察�have been contented to live in France and
know but few French people�察�entertaining among themselves and marrying
their daughters to Americans。 The members of the other�察�who have ;gone
in; for French society�察�take what they can get�察�and�察�on the whole�察�lead very
jolly lives。 It often happens ��perhaps it is only a coincidence�� that ladies
who have not been very successful at home are partial to this circle�察�where
they easily find guests for their entertainments and the recognition their
souls long for。
What the future of the ;Great Faubourg; will be�察�it is hard to say。 All
hope of a possible RESTAURATION appears to be lost。 Will the proud
necks that refused to bend to the Orleans dynasty or the two ;empires;
bow themselves to the republican yoke�拭 �It would seem as if it must
terminate in this way�察�for everything in this world must finish。 But the end
is not yet�察�one cannot help feeling sympathy for people who are trying to
live up to their traditions and be true to such immaterial idols as ;honor;
and ;family; in this discouragingly material age�察 �when everything goes
down before the Golden Calf。 Nor does one wonder that men who can
trace their ancestors back to the Crusades should hesitate to ally
themselves with the last rich PARVENU who has raised himself from the
gutter�察�or resent the ardor with which the latest importation of American
ambition tries to chum with them and push its way into their life。
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