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town during the summer�察�but when walking abroad they must be clad in 

the best�察�so that no one may know by their appearance if the income be 

counted by hundreds or thousands。 

     While   these   standards   prevail   and   the   female   mind   is   fixed   on   this 

subject with such dire intent�察�it is not astonishing that a weaker sister is 

occasionally tempted beyond her powers of resistance。 Nor that each day a 

new   case   of   a   well´dressed   woman   thieving   in   a   shop   reaches   our   ears。 

The poor feeble´minded creature is not to blame。 She is but the reflexion 

of   the   minds   around   her   and   is   probably  like   the   lady  Emerson   tells   of�察�

who confessed to him ;that the sense of being perfectly well´dressed had 

given her a feeling of inward tranquillity which religion was powerless to 

bestow。; 



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          CHAPTER 5 ´ On Some Gilded 

                               Misalliances 



       A DEAR old American lady�察�who lived the greater part of her life in 

Rome�察�and received every body worth knowing in her spacious drawing´ 

rooms�察�far up in the dim vastnesses of a Roman palace�察�used to say that 

she had only known one really happy marriage made by an American girl 

abroad。 

     In   those   days�察  �being   young   and   innocent�察  �I   considered   that   remark 

cynical�察  �and   in   my   heart   thought   nothing   could   be   more   romantic   and 

charming than for a fair compatriot to assume an historic title and retire to 

her husband's estates�察�and rule smilingly over him and a devoted tenantry�察�

as in the last act of a comic opera�察�when a rose´ colored light is burning 

and the orchestra plays the last brilliant chords of a wedding march。 

     There seemed to my perverted sense a certain poetic justice about the 

fact   that  money�察    �gained    honestly   but   prosaically�察  �in  groceries    or  gas�察�

should go to regild an ancient blazon or prop up the crumbling walls of 

some stately palace abroad。 

     Many  thoughtful   years   and   many   cruel   realities   have   taught   me   that 

my gracious hostess of the ;seventies; was right�察�and that marriage under 

these   conditions   is   apt   to   be   much   more   like   the   comic   opera   after   the 

curtain has been rung down�察�when the lights are out�察�the applauding public 

gone home�察�and the weary actors brought slowly back to the present and 

the   positive�察  �are   wondering   how   they  are   to   pay   their   rent   or   dodge   the 

warrant in ambush around the corner。 

     International      marriages      usually    come     about     from    a   deficient 

knowledge of the world。 The father becomes rich�察�the family travel abroad�察�

some   mutual   friend   ��often   from   purely   interested   motives��   produces   a 

suitor for the hand of the daughter�察�in the shape of a ;prince; with a title 

that makes the whole simple American family quiver with delight。 

     After a few visits the suitor declares himself�察�the girl is flattered�察�the 

father   loses   his   head�察  �seeing   visions   of   his   loved   daughter   hob´nobbing 

with   royalty�察  �and   ��intoxicating   thought�。�   snubbing   the   ;swells;   at   home 



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who had shown reluctance to recognize him and his family。 

     It is next to impossible for him to get any reliable information about 

his   future   son´in´law   in   a   country   where�察  �as   an   American�察  �he   has   few 

social relations�察�belongs to no club�察�and whose idiom is a sealed book to 

him。 Every circumstance conspires to keep the flaws on the article for sale 

out of sight and place the suitor in an advantageous light。 Several weeks' 

;courting; follows�察�paterfamilias agrees to part with a handsome share of 

his earnings�察�and a marriage is ;arranged。; 

     In   the   case   where   the   girl   has   retained   some   of   her   self´respect   the 

suitor   is   made   to   come   to   her   country   for   the   ceremony。   And�察  �that   the 

contrast   between   European   ways   and   our   simple   habits   may   not   be   too 

striking�察  �an   establishment   is   hastily   got   together�察  �with   hired   liveries   and 

new´bought   carriages�察  �as   in   a   recent   case   in   this   state。   The   sensational 

papers write up this ;international union�察─�and publish ;faked; portraits of 

the   bride   and   her   noble   spouse。   The   sovereign   of   the   groom's   country 

��enchanted   that   some   more American   money   is   to   be   imported   into   his 

land�� sends an economical present and an autograph letter。 The act ends。 

Limelight and slow music� �

     In a few years rumors of dissent and trouble float vaguely back to the 

girl's   family。    Finally�察  �either    a  great   scandal     occurs�察   �and   there   is  one 

dishonored       home     the   more     in  the   world�察    �or  an   expatriated      woman�察�

thousands of miles from the friends and relatives who might be of some 

comfort to her�察�makes up her mind to accept ;anything; for the sake of her 

children�察  �and   attempts   to   build   up   some   sort   of   an   existence   out   of   the 

remains of her lost illusions�察�and the father wakes up from his dream to 

realize that his wealth has only served to ruin what he loved best in all the 

world。 

     Sometimes the conditions are delightfully comic�察�as in a well´known 

case�察�where the daughter�察�who married into an indolent�察�happy´go´ lucky 

Italian   family�察  �had   inherited her   father's business   push   and   energy  along 

with his fortune�察�and immediately set about ;running; her husband's estate 

as she had seen her father do his bank。 She tried to revive a half´forgotten 

industry   in   the   district�察  �scraped   and   whitewashed   their   picturesque   old 

villa�察�proposed her husband's entering business�察�and in short dashed head 



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down against all his inherited traditions and national prejudices�察�until her 

new family loathed the sight of the brisk American face�察�and the poor she 

had tried to help�察�sulked in their newly drained houses and refused to be 

comforted。 Her ways were not Italian ways�察�and she seemed to the nun´ 

like Italian ladies�察�almost unsexed�察�as she tramped about the fields�察�talking 

artificial   manure  and   subsoil drainage  with   the  men。 Yet   neither she  nor 

her    husband     was   to  blame。    The   young     Italian  had   but   followed    the 

teachings of his family�察�which decreed that the only honorable way for an 

aristocrat to acquire wealth was to marry it。 The American wife honestly 

tried to do her duty in this new position�察�naively thinking she could engraft 

transatlantic ;go; upon the indolent Italian character。 Her work was in vain�察�

she made herself and her husband so unpopular that they are now living in 

this country�察�regretting too late the error of their ways。 

     Another case but little less laughable�察�is that of   a Boston girl with   a 

neat little fortune of her own�察�who�察�when married to the young Viennese of 

her choice�察�found that he expected her to live with his family on the third 

floor of   their   ;palace;   ��the   two   lower   floors   being   rented   to   foreigners���察�

and as there was hardly enough money for a box at the opera�察�she was not 

expected to go�察�whereas his position made it necessary for him to have a 

stall and appear there nightly among the men of his rank�察�the astonished 

and disillusioned   Bostonian   remaining   at home  EN TETE´A´TETE   with 

the   women      of  his  family�察  �who    seemed    to  think   this  the  most    natu

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