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indulging in a little innocent flirtation。;
;What is that�拭─�he asked。 ;Flirtation�拭─�
;An American custom rather difficult to explain。 It may�察�however�察�be
roughly defined as the art of leading a man a long way on the road to ´
nowhere� ─�
;Women flirt with friends or acquaintances�察 �never with members of
their family�拭─�
;The husbands are those dejected individuals wandering aimlessly
about over there like lost souls。 They are mostly rich men�察 �who�察 �having
married beautiful girls for love�察�wear themselves out maintaining elaborate
and costly establishments for them。 In return for his labor a husband�察�
however�察 �enjoys but little of his wife's society�察 �for a really fashionable
woman can rarely be induced to go home until she has collapsed with
fatigue。 In consequence�察�she contributes little but `nerves' and temper to
the household。 Her sweetest smiles�察�like her freshest toilets�察�are kept for
the public。 The husband is the last person considered in an American
household。 If you doubt what I say�察 �look behind you。 There is a newly
married man speaking with his wife�察�and trying to persuade her to leave
before the cotillion begins。 Notice his apologetic air� �He knows he is
interrupting a tender conversation and taking an unwarrantable liberty。
Nothing short of extreme fatigue would drive him to such an extremity。
The poor millionnaire has hardly left his desk in Wall Street during the
week�察�and only arrived this evening in time to dress for dinner。 He would
give a fair slice of his income for a night's rest。 See� �He has failed�察�and is
lighting another cigar�察 �preparing�察 �with a sigh�察 �for a long wait。 It will be
three before my lady is ready to leave。;
After a silence of some minutes�察 �during which he appeared to be
turning these remarks over in his mind�察�the young Oriental resumed�此 �The
single men who absorb so much of your women's time and attention are
doubtless the most distinguished of the nation�察 � writers�察 �poets�察 �and
statesmen�拭─�
I was obliged to confess that this was not the case�察�that�察�on the contrary�察�
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the dancing bachelors were for the most part impecunious youths of
absolutely no importance�察 �asked by the hostess to fill in�察 �and so lightly
considered that a woman did not always recognize in the street her guests
of the evening before。
At this moment my neighbor's expression changed from bewilderment
to admiration�察�as a young and very lovely matron threw herself�察�panting�察�
into a low chair at his side。 Her decollete was so daring that the doubts of
half an hour before were evidently rising afresh in his mind。 Hastily
resuming my task of mentor�察�I explained that a decollete corsage was an
absolute rule for evening gatherings。 A woman who appeared in a high
bodice or with her neck veiled would be considered lacking in politeness
to her hostess as much if she wore a bonnet。
;With us�察 �women go into the world to shine and charm。 It is only
natural they should use all the weapons nature has given them。;
;Very good� ─�exclaimed the astonished Ottoman。 ;But where will all
this end�拭 �You began by allowing your women to appear in public with
their faces unveiled�察�then you suppressed the fichu and the collarette�察�and
now you rob them of half their corsage。 Where�察�O Allah�察�will you stop�拭─�
;Ah� ─�I answered�察�laughing�察 �the tendency of civilization is to simplify�察�
many things may yet disappear。;
;I understand perfectly。 You have no prejudice against women wearing
in public toilets that we consider fitted only for strict intimacy。 In that case
your ladies may walk about the streets in these costumes�拭─�
;Not at all� ─�I cried。 ;It would provoke a scandal if a woman were to
be seen during the daytime in such attire�察�either at home or abroad。 The
police and the law courts would interfere。 Evening dress is intended only
for reunions in private houses�察 �or at most�察 �to be worn at entertainments
where the company is carefully selected and the men asked from lists
prepared by the ladies themselves。 No lady would wear a ball costume or
her jewels in a building where the general public was admitted。 In London
great ladies dine at restaurants in full evening dress�察 �but we Americans�察�
like the French�察�consider that vulgar。;
;Yet�察�last winter�察─�he said�察 �when passing through New York�察�I went to
a great theatre�察�where there were an orchestra and many singing people。
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Were not those respectable women I saw in the boxes�拭 �There were no
MOUCHARABIES to screen them from the eyes of the public。 Were all
the men in that building asked by special invitation�拭�That could hardly be
possible�察�for I paid an entrance fee at the door。 From where I sat I could
see that�察�as each lady entered her box�察�opera´glasses were fixed on her�察�and
her `points��' as you say�察�discussed by the crowd of men in the corridors�察�
who�察�apparently�察�belonged to quite the middle class。;
;My poor�察�innocent Padischa�察�you do not understand at all。 That was
the opera�察�which makes all the difference。 The husbands of those women
pay enormous prices�察�expressly that their wives may exhibit themselves in
public�察 �decked in jewels and suggestive toilets。 You could buy a whole
harem of fair Circassians for what one of those little square boxes costs。 A
lady whose entrance caused no sensation would feel bitterly disappointed。
As a rule�察�she knows little about music�察�and cares still less�察�unless some
singer is performing who is paid a fabulous price�察�which gives his notes a
peculiar charm。 With us most things are valued by the money they have
cost。 Ladies attend the opera simply and solely to see their friends and be
admired。
;It grieves me to see that you are forming a poor opinion of our
woman kind�察 �for they are more charming and modest than any foreign
women。 A girl or matron who exhibits more of her shoulders than you�察�
with your Eastern ideas�察 �think quite proper�察 �would sooner expire than
show an inch above her ankle。 We have our way of being modest as well
as you�察�and that is one of our strongest prejudices。;
;Now I know you are joking�察─�he replied�察�with a slight show of temper�察�
;or trying to mystify me�察 �for only this morning I was on the beach
watching the bathing�察�and I saw a number of ladies in quite short skirts ´
up to their knees�察 �in fact ´ with the thinnest covering on their shapely
extremities。 Were those women above suspicion�拭─�
;Absolutely�察─ �I assured him�察 �feeling inclined to tear my hair at such
stupidity。 ;Can't you see the difference�拭�That was in daylight。 Our customs
allow a woman to show her feet�察�and even a little more�察�in the morning。 It
would be considered the acme of indecency to let those beauties be seen at
a ball。 The law allows a woman to uncover her neck and shoulders at a
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ball�察�but she wou