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indulging in a little innocent flirtation。; 

     ;What is that�拭─�he asked。 ;Flirtation�拭─�

     ;An American custom rather difficult to explain。 It may�察�however�察�be 

roughly defined as the art of leading a man a long way on the road to ´ 

nowhere� ─�

     ;Women   flirt   with   friends   or   acquaintances�察  �never   with   members   of 

their family�拭─�

     ;The     husbands      are  those    dejected    individuals     wandering      aimlessly 

about   over there   like   lost souls。 They  are   mostly  rich   men�察  �who�察  �having 

married beautiful girls for love�察�wear themselves out maintaining elaborate 

and   costly   establishments   for   them。   In   return   for   his   labor   a   husband�察�

however�察  �enjoys   but   little   of   his   wife's   society�察  �for   a   really   fashionable 

woman   can   rarely   be   induced   to   go   home   until   she   has   collapsed   with 

fatigue。 In   consequence�察�she contributes   little   but `nerves'   and temper   to 

the household。 Her sweetest smiles�察�like her freshest toilets�察�are kept for 

the   public。   The   husband   is   the   last   person   considered   in   an   American 

household。   If   you   doubt   what   I   say�察  �look   behind   you。   There   is   a   newly 

married man speaking with his wife�察�and trying to persuade her to leave 

before   the   cotillion   begins。   Notice   his   apologetic   air�   �He   knows   he   is 

interrupting   a   tender   conversation   and   taking   an   unwarrantable   liberty。 

Nothing   short   of   extreme   fatigue   would   drive   him  to   such   an   extremity。 

The   poor   millionnaire   has   hardly  left   his   desk   in Wall   Street   during   the 

week�察�and only arrived this evening in time to dress for dinner。 He would 

give a fair slice of his income for a night's rest。 See� �He has failed�察�and is 

lighting   another   cigar�察 �preparing�察  �with   a  sigh�察 �for   a  long   wait。  It   will   be 

three before my lady is ready to leave。; 

     After   a   silence   of   some     minutes�察  �during   which   he   appeared   to       be 

turning these remarks over in his mind�察�the young Oriental resumed�此 �The 

single men who absorb so much of your women's time and attention are 

doubtless      the   most    distinguished      of  the   nation�察    �  writers�察  �poets�察   �and 

statesmen�拭─�

     I was obliged to confess that this was not the case�察�that�察�on the contrary�察�



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the   dancing     bachelors    were    for  the   most   part   impecunious      youths    of 

absolutely   no   importance�察  �asked   by   the   hostess   to   fill   in�察  �and   so   lightly 

considered that a woman did not always recognize in the street her guests 

of the evening before。 

     At this moment my neighbor's expression changed from bewilderment 

to admiration�察�as a young and very lovely matron threw herself�察�panting�察�

into a low chair at his side。 Her decollete was so daring that the doubts of 

half   an   hour   before    were   evidently   rising    afresh   in  his  mind。    Hastily 

resuming my task of mentor�察�I explained that a decollete corsage was an 

absolute   rule   for   evening   gatherings。 A  woman   who   appeared   in   a   high 

bodice or with her neck veiled would be considered lacking in politeness 

to her hostess as much if she wore a bonnet。 

     ;With   us�察  �women   go   into   the   world   to   shine   and   charm。   It   is   only 

natural they should use all the weapons nature has given them。; 

     ;Very good� ─�exclaimed the astonished Ottoman。 ;But where will all 

this   end�拭  �You   began   by   allowing   your   women   to   appear   in   public   with 

their faces unveiled�察�then you suppressed the fichu and the collarette�察�and 

now you rob them of half their corsage。 Where�察�O Allah�察�will you stop�拭─�

     ;Ah� ─�I answered�察�laughing�察 �the tendency of civilization is to simplify�察�

many things may yet disappear。; 

     ;I understand perfectly。 You have no prejudice against women wearing 

in public toilets that we consider fitted only for strict intimacy。 In that case 

your ladies may walk about the streets in these costumes�拭─�

     ;Not at all� ─�I cried。 ;It would provoke a scandal if a woman were to 

be seen during the daytime in such attire�察�either at home or abroad。 The 

police and the law courts would interfere。 Evening dress is intended only 

for   reunions   in   private   houses�察  �or   at   most�察  �to   be   worn   at   entertainments 

where   the   company   is   carefully   selected   and   the   men   asked   from   lists 

prepared by the ladies themselves。 No lady would wear a ball costume or 

her jewels in a building where the general public was admitted。 In London 

great   ladies   dine   at   restaurants   in   full   evening   dress�察  �but   we Americans�察�

like the French�察�consider that vulgar。; 

     ;Yet�察�last winter�察─�he said�察 �when passing through New York�察�I went to 

a great theatre�察�where there were an orchestra and many singing people。 



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Were   not   those   respectable   women   I   saw   in   the   boxes�拭  �There   were   no 

MOUCHARABIES to screen them from the eyes of the public。 Were all 

the men in that building asked by special invitation�拭�That could hardly be 

possible�察�for I paid an entrance fee at the door。 From where I sat I could 

see that�察�as each lady entered her box�察�opera´glasses were fixed on her�察�and 

her `points��' as you say�察�discussed by the crowd of men in the corridors�察�

who�察�apparently�察�belonged to quite the middle class。; 

     ;My poor�察�innocent Padischa�察�you do not understand at all。 That was 

the opera�察�which makes all the difference。 The husbands of those women 

pay enormous prices�察�expressly that their wives may exhibit themselves in 

public�察  �decked   in   jewels   and   suggestive   toilets。  You   could   buy   a   whole 

harem of fair Circassians for what one of those little square boxes costs。 A 

lady whose entrance caused no sensation would feel bitterly disappointed。 

As a rule�察�she knows little about music�察�and cares still less�察�unless some 

singer is performing who is paid a fabulous price�察�which gives his notes a 

peculiar charm。 With us most things are valued by the money they have 

cost。 Ladies attend the opera simply and solely to see their friends and be 

admired。 

     ;It   grieves   me   to   see   that   you   are   forming   a   poor   opinion   of   our 

woman   kind�察  �for   they   are   more   charming   and   modest   than   any   foreign 

women。 A  girl   or   matron   who   exhibits   more   of   her   shoulders   than   you�察�

with   your   Eastern   ideas�察  �think   quite   proper�察  �would   sooner   expire   than 

show an inch above her ankle。 We have our way of being modest as well 

as you�察�and that is one of our strongest prejudices。; 

     ;Now I know you are joking�察─�he replied�察�with a slight show of temper�察�

;or    trying   to  mystify    me�察  �for  only   this  morning     I  was    on  the   beach 

watching the bathing�察�and I saw a number of ladies in quite short skirts ´ 

up   to   their   knees�察  �in   fact   ´   with   the   thinnest   covering   on   their   shapely 

extremities。 Were those women above suspicion�拭─�

     ;Absolutely�察─  �I   assured   him�察  �feeling   inclined   to   tear   my  hair   at   such 

stupidity。 ;Can't you see the difference�拭�That was in daylight。 Our customs 

allow a woman to show her feet�察�and even a little more�察�in the morning。 It 

would be considered the acme of indecency to let those beauties be seen at 

a ball。 The law  allows a woman   to uncover her neck   and shoulders at   a 



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